I was talking to a client the other day and it became clear to me that there is some confusion about which comes first; Beliefs or Reality.
My client was comparing herself to other agents and putting herself down, because she wasn't getting the same results that they were. Then she said to me, "that proves that I must be defective." She had used that term about herself before, so I thought it was time to finally explore why she thinks of herself that way. Her reasoning was, "I'm not doing well in my real estate business; therefore something must be wrong with me." Actually she has it BACKWARDS.
She is putting the "cart before the horse."
She doesn't realize that her beliefs about her, such as; "I must be defective" are actually creating her reality, not the other way around.
Have you ever done that?
Here are some Self Limiting beliefs that my client discovered in her:
- I always screw things up
- I'm not good enough
- I need to please people
- I'm not worthy
And the last one...
- I must be defective
Here's a question for YOU...can you resonate with any of those beliefs?
If so, are you aware that those beliefs are creating your reality, and not the other way around?
Getting back to my client, I told her the truth: that she is not defective because her real estate business isn't going the way she wants it to go. Rather, it's the other way around: her beliefs that she is defective are interfering with creating a successful business.
Are you putting the cart before the horse?
Here are some categories of self-limiting beliefs:
1. Beliefs about yourself. Do you look at your business and think: "I must not be good enough."
2. Beliefs about money. Do you ever think: "there's never enough money"
3. Beliefs about success: do you ever believe "to be successful I have to work long hard hours, struggle and sacrifice"
4 Beliefs about picking up the phone: Do you ever tell yourself, "If I call people, I'm bothering them"
Whether you're aware of it, or not those beliefs are creating your reality.
So, most likely what's showing up in your reality is a lack of money, working really hard, and inability to pick up the phone.
Should you put yourself down for this?
ABSOLUTELY NOT! This is not your fault, this is your conditioning.
You, like most people, have hidden self-limiting beliefs that are creating your reality.
Just remember this: "Your Beliefs Create Your Reality"
For example; if you believe there never enough money, then you'll experience never having enough money.
So what should you do?
1. Refrain from judging yourself.
2. Do a self-inventory of your Self Limiting Beliefs.
3. Increase your awareness of these Beliefs.
4. When you find yourself thinking something negative like "Success means working long hard hours", change it to a more positive belief; "I create success easily by working smarter, not harder."
5. Learn to install Updated, Empowered Beliefs, such as:
- I am more than good enough
- Money comes to me easily and effortlessly
- I work smarter not harder
- I have a valuable service to offer and people are happy to hear from me
6. Self-limiting beliefs are often in our "blind spot", so get outside support to help you with the process of discovering and releasing all Self Limiting Beliefs.
In conclusion, become mindful about your thoughts because your beliefs are creating your reality.
If you want a successful reality, then install success beliefs.
In other words, "Change Your Thinking, Change of Your Life" and watch your business grow so that you can achieve a Multiple 6 Figure Income easily and effortlessly.
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Maya Bailey, Ph.D.,author of, Law of Attraction for Real Estate
Professionals, integrates 20 years of experience as a psychologist and
12 years as a business coach with her expertise in the Law of
Attraction. Her powerful work creates a success formula for real
estate professionals ready to double and triple their incomes. Get Dr.
Maya's free report, 7 Simple Strategies For More Clients in 90 Days,
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